One thing I want to make clear to my readers is that most of the names for God contain both masculine and feminine aspects. Now many scholars will put forth that God possesses these traits not because He is either male or female, but because He is neither and both. That God possesses the traits of both genders for no seemingly better explanation other than He is God.
Now before I continue, let me make this perfectly clear. Male and female are not opposites. This conflicts with our modern western teaching that concludes that they are. Let me clarify. Light and dark come close the being opposites, apart from the fact that darkness is the absence of light, but darkness cannot exist without light. Positive and negative are also close representations of opposites, positive charges are caused by the absence of electrons, which bear a negative charge. Good and evil are close representations of opposites as well, in that evil is really an absence of good. The word opposite means two forces or things that are opposed. A common trend you will find in all opposites is that they are set against each other and an increase in one has a corresponding decrease in the other.
But male and female are not opposites. Masculinity is not the absence of femininity, nor is femininity an absence of masculinity. Neither gender has any inherit negativity, nor is one more good than the other. What masculine and feminine are is better attributed to separate parts of a whole. They are complimentary, not opposites. An increase in one does not equal a decrease in the other. Both male and female are good. I think a few passages of scripture can illustrate the meaning.
“Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.”
1st Corinthians 11:11-12
“And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:4-6
When man and woman become united, they become more than two individuals. The different attributes of the two genders are not meant to compete, they are meant to compliment. This is just as true here on earth as it is in Heaven. It goes well beyond the physical merging of the body. Men and women must learn how to be united mentally and spiritually as well. They must learn how to put aside their selfish interests and seek to serve one another. When they learn how to do this, they become greater than the sum of their parts.
My point in this is to break down a mental barrier in which men and women are separate. They are intended to be joined and united. Together they form the whole. This simple truth is found in the scriptures and is repeated over and over again. God exists in plural. Often Christians refer to a Heavenly Father, it ought to occur naturally that there is a Heavenly Mother as well. And it ought to be plainly evident that the combination of a Heavenly Father and Heavenly Mother collectively forms God. They are referred to as one and yet pluraly because they always act as one.