If you want a good clean marriage and a safe and stable relationship, it needs to start right, and that means that you need to be open and honest right up front about the goals and intentions. A proper start should not involve flattery, flirting, kissing or other physical contact.
Be honest with yourself. If you are a man ask yourself what kind of woman do you want to be married to? And are you the kind of man that that woman would want to be married to? Do you think a good girl is going to want to be married to a man who has a big lifted truck? Do you think a good woman is going to want to be married to a man who only thinks about going out on his four wheeler on weekends? Do you think a good woman wants to be married to a man who sits around and plays video games all day? Or a man that stares at girls? Or a man that dresses like a hipster?
If you are the girl ask yourself what kind of man do you want to be married to? And are you the kind of woman that that man would want to be married to? Do you think that man would want a girl who sits there and reads fashion magazines all day? Or watches every new drama that comes on? Or reads romance novels? Or a girl that stares at guys? Or that wears skimpy clothing?
Look for an individual that has the actual character traits and qualities that you are seeking. Especially ask for the Lords help in that process, because sometimes you may see something outwardly that isn't the truth? And be the sort of person that God wants you to be and the rest will fall into place.
In my view, and this is my opinion, a good man should want a woman of God. He should want a girl who has striven to keep herself clean from the stains of Babylon. This is going to be a girl who dresses modestly, listens to good music, chooses good friends, refrains from flirtatious behavior, and avoids gossip. This is not the be all end all, I will share what I consider to be the most important factor at the end of this article.
For a girl, she should desire a man who first seeks to serve God. He should dress clean and modest, refrain from cussing and swearing, know how to manage his time wisely, refrain from excessive entertainment, treats others with kindness and respect, and always seeks to do his best.
Now for what I consider to be the most important part of all. I adamantly believe that if we want to form a lasting relationship, it must start with God. If we first seek to have a relationship with Him, and do His will, He will lead us to a companion who will help us learn, grow, and be happy. If we trust in Him, He will reveal to us, in His own way, the best blessing. If we try to find a companion without His help, using our own wisdom and understanding, even if we look for those good traits, we will not find the same end result. A person we may think is the right one, may often not be what they appear outwardly or they may not be what we actually need.
In my own experience I have seen girls that appeared to be good clean girls outwardly, but inwardly they are selfish, unvirtuous, dishonest, or a host of other problems. If I had not let God lead me to my companion, I could have overlooked some serious problems, allowed myself to become blinded and infatuated, and could have found myself in an unhealthy situation.
I put this out to all who will listen. It is our right, privlege, and responsibility to establish first a relationship with your Father in Heaven, then trust Him to help you find a soulmate. A relationship with God as the foundation is much stronger than one founded on anything else. That way no matter what struggles or challenges you may face, you will always have strength in the knowledge that God placed you in that situation and He can carry you through it.
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