Physical Abuse

One issue that comes up is what happens if there is a physically abusive relationship. What happens if a couple get married, and one is abusive towards the other?  

And so the question comes up. In such a situation, is it justifiable for the one being abused to leave the relationship?  And what point does it become so?

I do not know how many people are in abusive situations. I'm sure it is a lot. I am greatly saddened by such things. I believe that one of the main goals of marriage is to help unite a man and woman. Obviously if physical violence is happening, then this unity is broken. 

Now for the benefit of those who are not yet married, and in no way a judgement towards those who are, I will state that the best way to avoid getting into such a situation is to trust the Lord on the matter. Most cases of someone getting into an abusive relationship stems from getting into that situation themselves. This is not always the case, but nevertheless, it is the common way. Two people who didn't know each other found each other to be attractive, they dated, got married, and is often the case, did not get to see the whole person until after they had been living together. The age old saying that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure very much applies to these situations

Now now regarding the question of leaving the relationship. As I have laid out in my previous articles marriage is permanent. As such it is important that those who entered into it strive to make the situation work. This means that every option to resolve the problem needs to be explored. Counseling and other aid programs exist. Usually there are deep rooted emotional problems that cause abuse to occur. Steps to address those problems should be taken. One step that I would actually consider very key and important is prayer to God. Explain the situation before your Father in Heaven. Ask for the faith and wisdom to know what to do. 

Now if other efforts fail, then separation from the situation may be necessary. I am never one in favor of cutting off or severing communication. Lack of communication often  makes such problems worse. But in many cases, separation may send a clear message. The abuser may realize that they do in fact love the other person and that they need to change if they want to be with that person. And obviously if the abuse extends towards the children or seriously threatens the safety of anyone, separation is a must.